Initial boat projects

I feel like I am getting carried away with boat projects.  Maybe I can get by without running backstays, without secondary winches, without a windvane and with a dysfunctional traveler.  Maybe I should just sail the boat the way she is for a couple years and not just spend money because I can.  I fear that I may be loading up my expectations by changing a bunch of things right away.  Am I building up expectations that this is my dream boat and that my family is going to love this venture.  Maybe I should find how I actually use the boat, allow myself to really bond with my boat and just get a better feel for things.  I certainly want to do things that are necessary to have a safe passage, but I get carried away thinking that I have to have everything on the boat just how I want it before going down to the Caribbean.  I think a valuable conversation might be how to prioritize some of these things.  

So far I have spent a bunch with Morris, attending the anything that the inspector noted.  I am still looking at having Morris rebuild the head -- I tried to rebuild it the day before I was leaving and if they don't fix my mess then my family will arrive to a leaky toilet.  The holding tank also seems to be stinking worse than it did when we inspected the boat.  Apparently the holding tank was taken out, but they couldn't get this stink out of it, and the decision was made to just put it back in.  Morris thinks the holding tank is fiberglass, but it sure looks like metal on the top.  I also had asked Morris to replace a vent fitting which I'm not sure was done and I wonder if I should do that and hoses before replacing the whole tank.

Then there are dinghy considerations.  I have a small rowing Trinka which I like but I'm not sure how it's going to work with the whole family.  I would really like a rowing and sailing dinghy.  The Fatty Knees dinghy seems appealing but it's expensive.  I would still need an inflatable as a chase boat when the kids are sailing.  I would want to get a roll-up for storage so been thinking about the Achilles.  Then I would need a motor.  

There is also the windvane consideration.  I love the idea of having one.  But as I was trying to do the measurements for the installation it came to my attention that I really didn't know how the thing works at all. I thought the quadrant was oriented horizontally while it is oriented vertically.  Now I have read more and better understand how it all works but I still wonder if I should be proceeding with something of this nature without really understanding.